tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4677947565685248913.post3675212259833927144..comments2024-03-06T22:53:49.838+08:00Comments on Soul sprinkles : Sonnet (song of heaven)Hans Van Rostenberghehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04313486249043305156noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4677947565685248913.post-10813548558436747952014-10-04T09:14:32.081+08:002014-10-04T09:14:32.081+08:00I think I agree we cannot very much control our fe...I think I agree we cannot very much control our feelings but we can choose to accept them or get stressed and pressured by them. If get stressed and put pressure on our feelings, our feelings may get stuck. If we accept (even though we may not like that particular feeling), we will give it the space to move on. Hans Van Rostenberghehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04313486249043305156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4677947565685248913.post-11049352209299831132014-10-03T21:24:32.378+08:002014-10-03T21:24:32.378+08:00Many thanks for the comment. You are very right th...Many thanks for the comment. You are very right that the topic is at least controversial but I disagree with the many doctors saying that getting emotionally involved with our patients is dangerous. I am aware I can be wrong about this but here is what I think:<br />I think it is a myth that we cannot get emotionally involved with our patients. If I have to counsel parents about the bad prognosis of their child, it makes me really sad. Somehow, sad is not bad. Sadness is a very normal human feeling and unlike what the media want us to believe, we do not have to be happy all the time. There are times for happiness and times for sadness. If we get not too stressed out about being sad, it is a feeling that comes and goes. We will have likely more patients who get better than those who don't and thus have more reasons for happiness than sadness. Perhaps it is dangerous not to get emotionally involved and push away the every sadness to our subconscious mind where it may sit just there and eat our stomach mucosa. :). Perhaps equally dangerous is that we may minimize our empathy if we are too afraid of getting emotionally involved with our patients. Empathy, feeling as if we were in the shoes of our patients, can help us very often to provide comfort in the optimal way for our patients. <br />Certainly we should not overdo our emotional involvement. Our emotions should not blur our judgement, we should not be so emotional that the patients have to console us, but up to watery eyes is a very well accepted level of empathy to allow in ourselves. <br />This is a very important issue to think about each for ourselves in the medical field. The truth may be different for different personalities. <br />Many thanks again for the response. Reflections are often very subjective and I like it if we can have an interesting discussion about our subjective opinions. Please do not hesitate to continue the discussion below Hans Van Rostenberghehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04313486249043305156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4677947565685248913.post-85388874064952850072014-10-03T21:03:28.530+08:002014-10-03T21:03:28.530+08:00Cont....
I refuse to believe that we can choose w...Cont.... <br />I refuse to believe that we can choose what we feel .... And dr...sincerely...I think when compassion is blocked out for being unprofessional.....there must be something we can do ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4677947565685248913.post-39267906305160322692014-10-03T20:59:20.238+08:002014-10-03T20:59:20.238+08:00Dr, as a medical student my self, I have been taug...Dr, as a medical student my self, I have been taught not to be emotionally involved with patients...it is known to be dangerous to do so....we were taught that being professional means we have to keep our professional distance...as drs....seniors tell us so, drs tell us so, clinicians and non clinicians alike...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com