Dealing with harsh comments

Too many times people hurt us with harsh remarks.

But the way we handle harsh remarks can change the hurt. It can reduce it to virtually zero. The important premise is to understand why the person giving the harshness to us, is choosing harshness instead of friendly criticism in a constructive way. 

The people who go around scolding others, are generally not too happy themselves. All too often they crave for being on top, for being better than others. And their, perhaps subconscious, perception is that if they put others down, it shows their own superiority. Nothing it further from the truth. Harshness, scolding merely is revealing our weakness. 

Scolding is done by people with a twisted personality. If we are at the receiving end of a good scolding, we can listen to the content and see if we can learn something from it. But we do not have to let the harshness into our heart. I hear you think, that is easier said than done. 

But in fact, it is not too difficult. It easy to feel pity for a person with a twisted back. It is also not too difficult to feel pity for a person with a personality so twisted that they feel the need to shout to appease their own ego into a feeling of superiority. If we understand that we can choose to pity that person for his or her inappropriate behavior, everything changes.

We do not have to accept the harshness, we do not have to let it into our heart. If I give you a pen and you refuse to take the pen, the pen remains with me. If someone calls you stupid and you do not accept the insult, you do not let it in, the insult, the stupidity stays with the giver of the insult. 

So next time, you meet some harshness, do listen to the message inside the harshness. Then pity the person for his twisted personality, his lack of insight in how to create a harmonious relationship, do not let the insult into our heart and not even into our mind, let them keep the words they say and go on with our journey. 

Try to practice this little gem of wisdom. It is a great way to deal with harsh people intending to hurt others. 

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Beautiful flowers: 

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Wonderful poems (inspirational and motivational):

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(my pen name for poetry name is Aufie Zophy) 

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Some beautiful inspirational quotes: 

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A fantastic short story:

 https://afishwithawish.blogspot.com/2020/08/a-fish-with-wish-whole-story.html

Simply some essays about good things:

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ENJOY

 

Lovely trees

I love trees. Do you love them too?

Just now at 10.15 PM, i thought for awhile about my day. 

I became aware I had not taken even a minute to watch a tree.

 

So I went out, put on some garden lights and watched 

I watched the beautiful majestic crown of a tree

Then its stem and I mused about how deep the roots must go.

 

The silence of the night, the scantiness of the garden lights

gave the whole scene a touch of magic. 

 

It felt like my soul was ready to break its silence

and talk to me about the endless wisdom hidden 

in the universe.

 
I love trees, do you too?

A bit of rain and sun

A little ladybird sitting on the top of a low tree casts a shadow on the rose.
A dew drop tear rolls down the petals, a helpless fall
The soils gets wet, but the tear does not relieve its thirst.
Then there is a bit of rain, a bit of sun and the scene is filled with joy  

Dear Friends,

I hope you enjoyed reading the little 'poem' above.

Sometimes a series of events paints a gloomy picture in our life

And then a small thing sometimes turns the tide. 

A bit of rain, a bit of sun, are sometimes all we needed.

The key lies in being aware of the beauty in a bit of rain and sun...

Bliss

Swallowing every day a bit of bliss, I try
Soft amazing light in the pastel morning sky
The song of a bird, singing passionately
The outline of a gently swaying tree

But if I wake late, all this beauty I may miss.
Then, at work, I still try to find some bliss
In the superb opportunities for caring
In all the love and kindness we are sharing

Still if at work, I was only busy and stressed,
The evening may be super blessed
The love of family, a toddler's kiss
Truly, every day, I try to get a bit of bliss.

For every day, every hour, I wish too
a truckload filled with bliss for you.

Kind math

 If out of the more than 7 billion people in the world

there would be only one million people

who try every day to perform three random kind acts

That would amount to 3 million kind acts per day. 

or more than a billion kind acts in a year. 

How nice our world would have suddenly become

Let us start to become a member of the first 1 million.

If we are persistent the number will snowball 

to many hundreds of millions soon...

 

 

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A look at some beautiful skies:

https://hansvro.wixsite.com/mysite-1/skies-seen-by-hans 

Beautiful flowers: 

https://hansvro.wixsite.com/flowersbyhans

Wonderful poems (inspirational and motivational):

 https://aufiezophypoems.blogspot.com/

(my pen name for poetry name is Aufie Zophy) 

-----

Some beautiful inspirational quotes: 

 https://quotesfromhans.blogspot.com/ 

A fantastic short story:

 https://afishwithawish.blogspot.com/2020/08/a-fish-with-wish-whole-story.html

Simply some essays about good things:

 https://abcofvirtues.blogspot.com/

ENJOY