Angelic work

 I had the privilege of meeting nurses and paramedics working in the field of palliative care. It was so motivating and inspiring to hear just a few of their vast number of experiences.

I want to use the word HOLA-TEM-PER as letterword for their apprach

HOLA stands for Holistic Approach

It was truly heart warming to hear how they truly adopted for years and years of  palliative care , a very dedicated holistic approach. For sure, the physical needs of palliative care patients are big. the pain control, the feeding needs, the care of wounds, the care for the bathing and cleanliness. taking care of these needs is huge and admirable achievement already, but their own commitment went so much further. They were helping the families with financial needs to obtain help through various source so f govenment or NGO driven charities. They were supporting the social and psychological needs of teh patients and their caregivers by patiently listening to the stories of suffering and sacrifice, Over thre years they have become creative in suggesting and even providing solutions through thr giving of moral, motivational and spritual support.

TEM stands for the extra mile 

While listening some of their work expediences, it became soon extremely clear that these Palliative care teams were doing way more than was strictly expected from them. This is already reflected in the holistic approach outlined above but there was so much more than that alone. They were giving the families, they cared for their own telephone numbers and allowed them to call whenever there was a big need. Sometimes on the way back from a house, they received a call and did not hesitate to make u-turn, even the distance was big, to provide the extra help that was requested. They displayed a superbly caring attitude even beyond office hours, beyond working days 

PER stands for persistence 

 These nurses and paramedics showed a remarkable level of persistence. Even if they felt not truly welcome during the fiirst visit of the referral, they persisted in an extremely friendly and caring way and almost uniformly they ended up being very welcome and even cherished by the whole family. many times the families prepared drinks and snacks and they were most of the time requested to stay a bit longer. That level of appreciation is hard to obtain, but they did it. if a person close to death, asks you to stay a bit longer, that is beyond full proof that your service has been of the highest quality.

 

I love to hear their working experiences. I heard about their struggles, some of their bitter expereinces but the successes of their extremely fruitful approach are so sweet and admirable, that I want to hear more and more. 

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The teams are active since 2014 in YOKUK, under the expert leadership and guidance from Datin Suliana, Dr. Fahisham Taib, Matron Dr. Tan Beng Geok, Matron Wan Maimunah dan Pn. Sulaini. 

the team members:

Nurul Adilah binti Muhammad⁠

Ainal Tasnim binti Abdul Aziz

Wan Nur Hasnakhazani binti Wan Hasan

⁠Tuan Rabiatul Adawiah binti Tuan Jaffar⁠

Nurul Amira bt Kamarulzaman

Nur Batrisha Maisarah binti Riduan

Nur Syahiera Binti Saari

Nik Nurun Amani binti Nik Mat 

Ahmad Faris bin Rosdi

Mohd Sahrul Nizam bin Mohd Bakri

The quiet power of honesty

Have you ever noticed how good it feels to lie down at night with nothing to hide? That quiet, easy peace — it's one of life's most underrated gifts. And honesty is what protects it.

We've all heard the whispers of doubt: dishonesty is the fast lane to money and power. Look at the top — don't most of them cheat their way there? And if we're clever enough, we'll never get caught.

But here's what they leave out. Every lie comes with a hidden cost — the vigilance of keeping your story straight, the quiet guilt that lingers, the fear that always lurks underneath. That's the real trade: your peace of mind, traded for something that was never going to make you happy anyway. Once you see it clearly, the choice gets easy.

Now, honesty gets a bad rap sometimes — mistaken for bluntness. There's an old joke: a man in a job interview is asked his biggest weakness. "Honesty," he says. The interviewer smiles, tells him that's not really a weakness. He shoots back, "I don't care what you think."

Funny — but she was right. That wasn't honesty. That was rudeness wearing honesty's name tag. Real honesty never travels alone. It comes hand in hand with kindness and respect. Take those away, and what's left isn't honesty — it's just an excuse to be unkind.

So let's give honesty its proper seat at the table — right beside kindness, right beside respect. Do that, and something wonderful happens: your peace of mind deepens, your happiness stops depending on what you can get away with, and starts becoming something you simply are.

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Love

Real Love — yeah, the one with a capital L — isn't just some feeling that shows up and disappears whenever it feels like it. That's "being in love," and trust me, that's a totally different game.

Here's the thing: Love is a value. It's something you get to choose to make important in your life — just like you choose to be honest, kind, humble, cheerful, or empathetic. And once you decide love matters to you, it quietly starts shaping everything: how you think, what you do, how you show up for people.

Which means Love is actually a verb. Not a mood. A verb. It's choosing to do sweet, thoughtful things for your partner, your family, your closest friends — on purpose, again and again. And here's the magic part: when you keep doing that, the feeling shows up on its own. Every time. Guaranteed.

So Love (the lasting, real kind) is a feeling that grows out of loving actions — actions you chose because you decided love was worth prioritizing.

And that's exactly why so many marriages fall apart. People sit around waiting for the feeling of Love to magically appear, without realizing it was never going to show up first. Love starts as a value. Then becomes an act. Then it becomes a feeling. It's a choice — one you get to make, every single day.

Value. Act. Feeling. That's Love.

Now compare that to "being in love" — that dizzy, swoony, can't-think-straight infatuation. It feels incredible... for a while. But it was never built to last a lifetime. Sometimes it barely lasts a few months.

And not knowing the difference? It's quietly wrecked careers, torn apart families, and derailed more lives than anyone talks about.

(inspired by S. Covey)

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