Accepting

 Yesterday evening, I made a long walk on the beach.

A soft wondrous evening sun shone on the breaking waves and on the small individual clouds in the otherwise blue sky. The waves were breaking with most soothing sounds and the smell of the sea was special. We had had a few days of heavy monsoon rains in the past few days with huge waves. Whenever the waves are big, quite a lot of garbage and plastic is washed ashore. This time it was not different. At certain places I had to look where I put my feet in order not to step on any branches or plastics. At other places it was better. 

I decided to focus on the beauty of the sea and the sky, on the breaking waves, on the wonderful clouds. I truly enjoyed the walk. I saw eagles floating through the skies and people smiling. 

There will be always imperfections. If we accept them and focus on the beauty, we can still enjoy the walk!

3 amazing stories

1.       The story of the angry letter

One day a minister was very angry with his personal assistant She had sent a letter to the wrong person, causing him not only a lot of embarrassment but if the other person acts badly, it could cost him a lot of money too. He was very upset.

It was the beginning of a weekend, and she was planning to take leave after the weekend. That was in the time before emails or text messages were available. So, he wrote her a letter. His letter contained the most hateful words and was written in a very harsh way. Then he asked his wife to post the letter

At night he could not sleep and kept turning around in his bed. His wife asked him what was bothering him. He felt very uneasy about the harshness he had used in the letter and was now worried that it would hurt his PA so badly that she may decide to quit, which would be extremely inconvenient to him. He really regretted to be so angry in the letter.

His wise wife reassured him that she knew he would regret and that she had not yet posted the letter.

Lesson: if we are angry, we lose temporary our capability to think clearly. We tend to say or write words that we clearly will regret later on, but once out there it is almost impossible to take them back. Better to cool down first, regain our common sense and only then we address the issue in a calm and cool way.

2.     2. The story of the boiling water

One a day a teenage girl came back from school stating very adamantly to her mother that she will quit school. She had failed test, had been bullied and was very frustrated. The mom said nothing but took three pots, filled them with water and put them on the fire until the water boiled. In one pot, she put a carrot, in the other an egg, and in the last one coffee beans.

After half an hour, she called the girl. See, these three things were exposed to the same stress but each responded in a different way: the carrot was hard but became weak, the egg was soft and liquid but became hard and the coffee beans, they just changed the surrounding into a lovely brew of coffee giving an amazing aroma.

Lesson: if we face difficulties or stress, we can either become weak and easily give up, we can become hardened and lose our normal emotional response to things, or we can try to change the situation and turn it around into something beautiful.

3.       3. The story of the nurse who was not let in

About ten years ago, we started a home-based nursing service for terminally ill patients. During one of the debriefing sessions, a nurse told about the frustration she had experienced when she visited a family with a person who was in dire need of palliative care but she was not welcomed to deliver this care. The family was very strongly believing in traditional healing methods and thought she was just sent by the hospital to deliver more painful treatments to the patient. She talked nicely to the family expressed her sincere intentions and gradually she was allowed to take care of the bed sores of the patient and in the end her work was very much appreciated by the family. 

 

When asked how she had achieved this remarkable success, she mentioned that she got the motivation from the knowledge that this work she was doing was blessed by our Creator. She was confident that our Creator would show the way to her and the family if it was meant to be that she should alleviate the suffering of the patient. 

 

Lesson: I think this is an amazing story of courage and faith. She could have gotten discouraged and may have considered quitting the job if the patients refuse her care. That would have been like the carrot, getting weak. She might have hardened up and become angry with the family, creating a situation more problematic still for the suffering family, perhaps creating feelings of guilt. But she took the coffee-bean approach. Through her faith in our Creator, she persisted gently and managed to turn the stressful situation into a beautiful one.

Forgiveness

 I found some nice quotes on forgiveness on the net

 

"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it enlarges the future."  - Paul Boose

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." - Mahatma Gandhi

 “Always forgive your enemies—nothing annoys them so much.” —Oscar Wilde

 

 “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” —Nelson Mandela

 “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” —Lewis B. Smedes

 The last two quotes are showing very nicely that forgiveness is something we do for ourselves, not for the one we forgive. If we hate someone, it does not much affect the one we hate or have grudges against. 

I can relate a personal story. I was in charge of the neonatal ward in a rural area in Malaysia. One night, many years ago, I was in dire need of syringe pumps. These are essential to give medications to newborn babies. We had so many sick babies and all our pumps were in use. A new baby with a severe condition was born and we really needed syringe pumps for giving him various types of medication in the exact right dose. That time, I knew that a new ward was about to open within our hospital and that all equipment was there already. I talked to the sister on call and requested that she arranged for me to borrow some of the pumps from that ward, that was not yet open. 

She had contacted the Doctor in charge of that ward and he refused to let me borrow the pumps. I asked the sister on call, she wanted to listen to that Doc who sat at home and let the baby in my ward die, or she wanted to take responsibility and let me borrow the life saving equipment that the baby needed. She luckily let us borrow the equipment. 

About 7 years later a new lecturer had joined our university and he told me the story of the pumps. I asked him how he knew. The Doc who had refused to borrow the pumps, had been apparently very upset with me and the sister that was in charge that night, and he was still angry with me about it. I sincerely had almost forgotten the incident and was completely unaware of his anger. Thus anger and hatred does not have an effect on the object of the anger but is just occupying in a negative the mind of the angry or hateful person. 

I really agree hatred or anger is imprisoning the angry or hateful person. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves, not for the person we hate. It is setting ourselves free from negative emotions that tend to blur our thinking process.

Keys to the future

The past is over.

We cannot change a thing from the past

We cannot change a deed we have done, 

We cannot swallow back a word we spoke

 

But today we have a choice

We can let the past reign our present and future

We can keep regrets and grudges in our heart

We can condemn and hate and be frustrated

Or we can choose to 

forgive ourselves for whatever went wrong

forgive all who wronged us for whatever was done

and start today with a mind and heart at peace and ease

That choice is so important 

because our future is depending on it

just like today is the result of our past

our future will be the result of our choice today

So choose forgiveness 

Choose gratitude

These are the two keys 

opening the door to a better future!

Jake the Grape

On a lighter note, here is a small fable meant for children 

I hope some children get to read and love the story

and perhaps it can give at least a smile to some adults :)

Here it comes:

This is the story of Jake of the Grape

 

You may know that grapes do not live very long

So, every other day they have a birthday celebration

Their desire for fun is extremely strong

 

Now Jake the Grape had a special dream

 He wanted on one of his own birthdays

 To sit on a birthday cake amidst the cream.

 

 The other grapes ware scared for Jake

 You do not want just to sit on a birthday cake

 

 The chance of being eaten is a terrible plight

 Even though sitting on top of a cake is a pure delight

 But Jake sneaked into a bakery at night

 And the next day, he sat on a cake, what a sight!

 

 A whole group of people was singing a birthday song

 Before the cake was cut to pieces oblong.

 

 Jake the grape, was the only grape on the cake

 And he ended up on the birthday-boy’s plate

 Now for good heaven’s sake,

 The boy did not like to eat grapes

 

 He threw Jake silently on the ground

 While none of the other people around

 Were looking and thus were unaware

 That Jake just lay on the floor somewhere

  

The next morning, mother swept the floor

 And Jake ended up among the flower bed

 That was located not far from the door

 That was as good for Jake as it ever could get.

  

Now a wonderful vine is growing near the house

 But except the birthday-boy, nobody knows

 That the vine was made

 By Jake the Grape from the birthday cake.

 

Aufie Zophy

An amazing story

Daniel received a trendy sports car as a Christmas gift from his brother. As Daniel came out of his office,  he saw a street kid walking around his shiny car, admiring it, asking: " is this your car, mister?" Daniel said: "Yes, my brother gave it to me for Christmas".

The boy was astounded and started to say: " I wish..." and then he hesitated for awhile.Of course Daniel knew what he was going to say. He was going to wish he had a brother like that. But what the boy was saying jarred Daniel down to his heels.

"I wish" the boy went on to say, " that I could be a brother like that"

Daniel was astonished and asked the boy: "Would you like a ride?" After a short ride, the boy asked: "could  you stop the car, there close to these two steps?" He ran up the steps and then in a short while Daniel heard him coming back, but he was not coming fast. He was carrying his severely handicapped brother. He sat him down on the bottom step, then sort of squeezed up against him and pointed towards the car. 

"There she is, Buddy, just like I told you upstairs. His brother gave it to him for Christmas and it didn't cost him a cent. And one day, I am just going to give you one like it...then you will be able to see for yourself all the beautiful things in the Christmas windows that I have been trying to tell you about."

Daniel got out and lifted the lad to the front seat of his car. The shining eyed older brother climbed in right beside him and the three of them began a memorable holiday ride. That Christmas even Daniel had learned the true meaning of:

"it is more blessed to give..."

The miracle of kindness has become undestroyable

I feel the need to say a small prayer for this big world

The unique part of our human nature is our happiness

which depends on being good and helping other humans

 

We have evolved from warring tribes into many loving communities

And that is one of the biggest miracles that have happened in this world

But a few barbaric people have grabbed power through endless lies 

 

Please, our God, let this huge work and that superb miracle 

of having truly loving, helping and free communities around the world

not go to pieces, because of a few handfuls of power-sick greedy minds,

for whom billions of dollars seem never enough.

 

The peace that was in the air this morning

The love that was surrounding my own community

The superb altruism that has evolved. 

 

So precious. On the surface they seem fragile

But the roots reach deep and let the forest of kindness

be soon lush again, filled with blossoms of Love.

 

That amazing Love with capital L  

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Find some more small prayers for a big world in a blog I dedicated to them: https://smallprayersforabigworld.blogspot.com/

Really good poetry https://aufiezophypoems.blogspot.com/

some beautiful inspirational quotes:  https://quotesfromhans.blogspot.com/ 

a fantastic short story: https://afishwithawish.blogspot.com/2020/08/a-fish-with-wish-whole-story.html

or look at some beautiful skies: https://hansvro.wixsite.com/mysite-1/skies-seen-by-hans 

or beautiful flowers: https://hansvro.wixsite.com/flowersbyhans

or simply some essays about good things: https://abcofvirtues.blogspot.com/

Sometimes, I feel alone

Sometimes I feel incredibly alone in this world. Have you ever felt like that too? About an hour ago, I really felt like that. Even though it was after ten p.m, I went outside, made a short walk in the garden and took a few deep breaths. I watched the moon, I felt the breeze, I saw the trees. They were alone too.It made the feeling of being incredibly alone a bit more bearable but it did not change its intensity. 

Then I came inside and decided I needed to think for awhile about myself, about these feelings. My attention drifted to a book that just lied there on the coffee table of our living room. I opened the book at a random page, close to the middle. and soon was reading the prayer of Francis of Assisi. 

 I remembered how once this little prayer had affected my life. I drifted off in memories of how the simple decision to focus on giving love rather than on the love that I received, made an enormous difference in my life. 

 I remembered how the simple decision to try to understand rather than to be understood, made a huge difference in my life.

 These memories made the feeling of being incredibly alone crumble slowly but definitely. 

 I could see the big space in my heart where all the love in the world was stored, I could see the big space in my mind where gratefulness was abundant

Have you felt like that as well?

I think the words of that prayer carry so much wisdom, so much kindness, that it is worth reading them again and for every human on this planet to discover how much these words, these ideas can mean to all of us.  

I wish you lots of love, and if feelings of loneliness enter your heart, do not let them bring you down, but search for the message they want you to learn.  

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I hope the above reflection brings you a bit in a poetic mood.

Please enjoy the following wonderful poem from Aufie Zophy: 

 

The most beautiful poems of Aufie Zophy are on this site:
https://aufiezophypoems.blogspot.com/ 

Enjoy!